Recently at church our pastor was sharing about the impact that his messages sometimes have on congregants. He spoke about times he would see wives nudge husbands or husband’s glare at wives during the message, when the point being shared applied to them. In this case, they were listening to the message with their partner in mind instead of themselves. Our pastor made it clear that this motive was not pure. I remember in the early days of marriage (and not so early days) praying on my way to church that the pastor would speak to Steve about his behavior. And I would listen intently for a word of conviction from the pastor that would set my husband straight and justify my “wounded” position. Those were dark, sad days. ..................