I met with a male client this week who spoke of feeling indifferent towards his wife. He stated that he did not like her very much, that they had a “horrible marriage,” and that he was staying because of the children. I hear this kind of thing a lot, but my heart still breaks every time, because I know that God has so much more planned for Christian couples. As Christ followers, we should have the best marriages. Our God invented marriage! Our God is love! Yet many of us live in daily defeat and unhappiness. So how can we, in small ways begin to cultivate warmer thoughts towards our partner? Here are a few simple ideas.

1. Reflect on the Earlier Days. What drew you to your spouse? Was he kind and always put you first? Was she.........